Courtship #2 For the King Family: Trae & Aubrey

Many of you may remember this post about a letter I wrote to my son. If not, you can click on the link to read it. After reading that post, this one will make sense.

Our son Trae, 20, came to my husband and I sometime ago talking about his future wife. He expressed some discouragement because he didn't see anyone that he would like to enter into a courtship with, in the hopes of marrying one day. He has many friends that are female and he works in the public. But no one caught his attention.

During this conversation, he expressed that he would like for my husband and I to play a major part in the process of him finding a wife. He said he valued our opinions and knew that we wanted the best for him. He said he didn't want to "date" because he wasn't a fan of dating.

"I don't want a girlfriend. I want a wife." Trae said.

That's when the subject of betrothal came up.....

We'd talked about betrothal once before, but it was in a joking manner. That's when he informed us that he had been reading about Isaac and Rebekah (Gen 24). It was at that time that betrothal was no longer a joke. He was serious!

Could our son really trust us enough to help him find a wife the same way Abraham found a wife for Isaac? Did he literally mean for us to send a servant to find her? Who betroths nowadays?

Don and I took it upon ourselves to start praying rather than finding him a wife. But I must confess, I was doing more looking than praying. I was praying too, but really really looking.

One day I was messaging my friend Kela on Facebook who blogs at Pursuing What Is Excellent. We started joking around about our children becoming friends on Facebook. So I did a friend's suggestion for the two of them. Nothing really happened at first.

It was during this time that Kela and I talked about what our children wanted in their future. We realized that our families had so many similarities that it was some what scary. I remember talking to her on the phone while I was shopping at JoAnn Fabric. I asked her if they celebrated Christmas. I was so happy when she told me they did. We would talk about marriage, family, homeschooling, etc. We even talked about politics!

One night my son comes to me and says, "You know that girl Aubrey? I would like to get to know her." I told him we'll talk more about it tomorrow when my husband was around....

So he contacted her father to ask permission to get to know her. I like the way Aubrey's father didn't give him an answer right away. My son sweated for a few days. Her father finally responded with a list of questions. He informed Trae that he will give him an answer after he responds to the questions at hand.

The day finally arrived when Trae was given the green light to talk to Aubrey. They private messaged each other and decided to Skype. After a few Skype sessions, my son was in cloud nine.

He came to my husband and I to ask what we thought about him entering into a courtship with her. We prayed and felt at peace about it. But there's one more step he had to take. Asking Aubrey's father for permission to court her.

Trae & Brian (Aubrey's dad) played phone tag a couple of times. Finally, they were able to talk.

Trae & Aubrey....

During this time of courtship, both sets of parents are praying God's will for the lives of our children. We believe that God has something planned especially for them. I personally want to thank Mr. & Mrs. Brian Nellums for trusting my son with their daughter's heart. I can honestly say, they won't be disappointed because my son has the best example of how a man should treat a woman. That man is his father, my husband.

By the way, Kela and I wouldn't say that we "betroth" our children. But we do call it a "semi-betrothal" and a very good semi-betrothal at that.