Wednesday, December 2, 2009

He Took A Second Look

Lately I've been talking to one of my son about what to look for in a wife. Yes, I know he's only 18, but that day will come when he comes to me and say, "Mom, I met a girl and I'm really interested in her."

I have yet to hear those words come from his mouth. He has many female friends. I for one consider him to be one of my best friends. We can talk about anything. Sometimes we can have deep conversations. Sometimes it's about politics, ministry, marriage, having solutions to the world's problems, things we're passionate about, ect.

Over the years we've talked to our children openly about relationships and why we don't like dating. Our son has never been on an official date. You know the kind where he goes and picks her up. Takes her to dinner and a movie, alone. Would he like to go to dinner and a movie with a young lady? Perhaps, maybe, but with whom?

Sometimes I scratch my head because I really don't know what he's looking for in a young lady. I have an idea, but when I ask him, he says stuff like, "She's got to have a nice personality." Me being the mom, I'm like "What else?" Then there's this awkward silence....

A few weeks ago he mentioned to me that he saw a young lady wearing a skirt. I was kind of puzzled because he sees young ladies in skirts all the time, but something was different about this skirt. The next words to proceed out of his mouth was, "She had on a modest skirt and she looked like a lady."

Then it dawned on me that it's not very often that he sees a young lady dressed modest. He told me he had to take a second look. Wow!..... Imagine that, a young man taking a second look at a young lady dressed in modest attire.


ILuvBNaMom said...

What a blessing that you have been training up your son in the right way - well enough for him to notice a young lady dressed modestly and be impressed by it. My little guy is only 3 so it's hard for me to imagine talking to him about this, but I know time goes fast!

Persuaded said...

My Noah is only 10yo, but I already see the need for these kinds of discussions. For example, he has asked that we not walk through the ladies' undergarments department at the store.... I am surprised that this is all happening already! I'm not sure I am ready!

Amelia and I watched the video and it was very enlightening... it's amazing to me how differently the minds of young men and women are.
Thanks for sharing☺

licia31 said...

Thanks for sharing this post. It reminds me that many young men are being raised to be great men!! God bless!!

Mrs. Bridget G. said...

Wow, you are on the right track with your son, that he noticed the modest dress! When my son becomes that age, I will call you! You can give me pointers.

Thandi said...

THAT is great!good going Mama and boy am I glad he's 'attracted' to that kind of appearance. When the time comes, I pray he finds a wife worthy of his regard,there are so few out there.

Deanna said...

Merrry Christmas, Sandra!

If I had to do it over knowing what I know now...I would have talked more in depth to my children about what to look for in a spouse and what they need to be for their spouse.

Though we talked about this matter, I wished I had done more of this starting when they were about 8 years old and continued through out their youth.

God bless you all and keep up the good work!

Simple Christian Homemaker said...

It's wonderful that you and your son have such a close relationship. I hope to hear words like that from my sons when they're older.

Lynn said...

It sounds like you have raised a young man to be proud of! My 22-year-old son likewise was not big on dating. A couple years ago, after much thought, he asked a young lady he'd known for over a year if she would be interested in pursuing a relationship with him. Now they are engaged :) It is so cool to see how God works these things out (and amazing how He can do so without my help! ;) )

Civilla said...

Persuaded, that's boys also did not like to walk through the ladies' undergarments section of stores.

My husband and I have talked to our sons a lot about spouses. The younger one wants to marry and Oriental-American because he thinks they are pretty (that would be great, because then I'd have pretty grandchildren), but he has also matured enough to want her to be a Christian, too. He'll have to pray that she wants HIM, too, and that her family will approve.

The older one is not thinking about it yet. They are in their early 20's.

They need to write up a list of what they want in a wife, examine the list to see if it is godly, and then pray for such a person.

I try to tell my boys to be realistic. For instance, there are no Oriental-Americans here in our part the Midwest, but my younger one wants to settle here. He needs to think about that! He may have to sacrifice living nere.

Right now, except for 2 proms apiece, they have not dated.

Well Watered Woman said...

You already know how much I love this post! 8 )
Awesome parents = awesome son!

Tammy said...

You must be a proud Mama! It seems you done a fine job raising you son into a gentleman.

You're right about the skirt thing. My daughter started public last year and everyday I drop her always get my daily "shock "..:(

In His Grace,

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SILVIA said...

so nice you came to visit!!i hope you are getting ready for the holidays,can't believe the year is gone soooo fast...i wish you dear friend the happiest of holidays,stay warm and take care, be back to visi later..


Lorrie said...

What a great post. I know that it's hard for boys/men now a days to have all that chest/face/legs thrown at them. My 13 year old says all the time..."she's dressed video..." and many times it's in the church...pray that those images don't linger on his heart.

Angie said...

Praise the Lord, Thank you for sharing that. We also speaking the same things into our Children. Not only to seek a woman of God, but for my sweet girl to be a woman of God, and be an example for her brother's to go by. So They see what a Godly young lady looks like. She is truly a perfect model for them.


Anonymous said...

You are an amazing woman and your children will rise and call you blessed!